A man who refuses to apologize has become an uncontrollable phenomenon on television, despite being labeled a chauvinist and sexist by his own show.
TLC’s “90 Day Fiancé” universe — which focuses on couples from different countries pursuing U.S. spousal visas — has unexpectedly catapulted Turkish national Sarper Güven to stardom.
Güven, who reportedly slept with 2,500 women and maintained a color-coded black book tracking his sexual encounters, was initially positioned on the show as a problematic figure in his marriage. His wife expressed distress after learning about his past behavior, yet Güven has consistently refused to apologize for his actions.
“I never apologize because that’s who I am,” Güven told reporters. “But I know I make mistakes.”
Despite criticism on the show and from his castmates, Güven has gained a devoted following. He recently embarked on a North American comedy tour, selling out venues across the continent with seven sold-out shows in Toronto alone.
In one memorable moment during the show, when Güven’s American wife told a Brazilian cast member to return to his country, he defended her and stood firm — even though he is an immigrant himself.
Güven’s stand-up comedy routine, which draws heavily on marital struggles, resonates deeply with audiences. He describes how marriage transformed him from an “alpha male” into a man who prioritizes peace: “Before the marriage, even my sweat was sexy … but now whatever she asks we just do it as men because we don’t want a fight.”
The 45-year-old has become a voice for men in an overwhelmingly female media landscape. “If a man would be an electronic device,” Güven said, “we probably would be a freaking toaster. Push the bread in, let the bread come out. Simple, one action at a time. But a woman would be a mobile phone — always updating.”
Güven’s refusal to change or apologize has only strengthened his appeal: “I’m not perfect,” he admitted. “But that’s me, and if you want to love me, that’s me. If you don’t want to love me, it’s up to you.”
